Hi Ana- After I read this I found myself reflecting about luck, patience, confidence and doubt. There are things I can wait for, sometimes for a very long time, and things I can't. There are things I know with no proof and things I doubt despite all evidence. I seek the rush of finding the four leaf clover but that wears off quickly. For me, the most enduring reward comes from finding things I didn't even know I was seeking, or from a benefit I didn't know the effort would deliver.
I do get that rush from my sessions with Sarah, but sometimes it's difficult to quantify what's being accomplished. And then my wife tells me that my (34 year old) daughter told her, "I love the new dad." That builds confidence, elminates doubt, rewards patience and makes me feel like the luckiest man in the world.
This stopped me. “I love the new dad.” That’s not a small thing to receive. That’s the whole argument for the work, isn’t it? The patience, the doubt, the effort that’s hard to quantify, and then something arrives that you weren’t even measuring for.
What you said about finding things you didn’t know you were seeking, I think that’s actually the most honest description of what growth looks like from the inside. Not the four-leaf clover you went looking for. Something else, that turns out to matter more.
Thank you for reading, and for sharing this. It means a lot.
Hi Ana- After I read this I found myself reflecting about luck, patience, confidence and doubt. There are things I can wait for, sometimes for a very long time, and things I can't. There are things I know with no proof and things I doubt despite all evidence. I seek the rush of finding the four leaf clover but that wears off quickly. For me, the most enduring reward comes from finding things I didn't even know I was seeking, or from a benefit I didn't know the effort would deliver.
I do get that rush from my sessions with Sarah, but sometimes it's difficult to quantify what's being accomplished. And then my wife tells me that my (34 year old) daughter told her, "I love the new dad." That builds confidence, elminates doubt, rewards patience and makes me feel like the luckiest man in the world.
This stopped me. “I love the new dad.” That’s not a small thing to receive. That’s the whole argument for the work, isn’t it? The patience, the doubt, the effort that’s hard to quantify, and then something arrives that you weren’t even measuring for.
What you said about finding things you didn’t know you were seeking, I think that’s actually the most honest description of what growth looks like from the inside. Not the four-leaf clover you went looking for. Something else, that turns out to matter more.
Thank you for reading, and for sharing this. It means a lot.